Living “The Four Agreements”

This is from one of my favorite books “The Four Agreements”. I try to live by these principles. Key words are “I try!”

“1. Be Impeccable With Your Word
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

2. Don’t Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

3. Don’t Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.”
― Miguel Ruiz


Sound like a lot?  It totally is.  I understand.  The first time I read through this book, I merely skimmed it.  Skimming it was enough to know that I had some serious self-reflecting to do.  Since then I have grappled with how much I bring up other peoples names when they aren’t around, how often I assume, take things personally, and finding balance with always doing my best.  I have gone through intense training in these areas at a “Spiritual School” where these were practically mandatory and I failed to meet the mark every day, 365 days and counting.  What I have come to find is, I am definitely human.  I believe it was eloquently put once that we are , “Spiritual Beings having a human experience.”  I resonate with that quote because when I read the 4 agreements, they resonated with me on a deep Soul level.  I am getting to know these agreements on a very personal level and I can finally say after many years of knowing of these things, I am starting to make SOME progress.  It is progress, not perfection.  I highly suggest this book.  It is a short read and you can pick it up when you feel like it as every page is filled with enlightening words that will fill your mind for years.

Let me know if you have read this book or if you have had any experiences with these principles.

Love always,

Alana Roach

RYT, CYT, Reiki, Wellness Support and Freelance Writer


One Comment

  1. Jim
    13 hours ago

    As you and others have said, ” it is a journey”!
    There might be a 5th, be kind to yourself, and don’t judge too harshly.
    I know that I have wrestled with the need to “Be Done”. I need to remember that someone else determines, When it is Done.
    Thanks as always for sharing.


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